No matter where you are in your relationship you might run into the issue of feeling like you are being taken for granted. You feel like you put so much effort into the relationship but you don’t get that much back.
It’s not that your man doesn’t love you. He just doesn’t seem to put you first. Everything else in his life takes priority over you.
I’ve heard so many women say, “Things are great when we’re together. He treats me really well and he’s a great guy but he just never seems to make time for me and he’s always busy.”
Well, that doesn’t really sound like he’s treating you well. It sounds like he’s got his cake and is eating it too. That’s not to say he doesn’t care about you but he simply learned to get away with some bad behavior that is hurting your feelings.
Getting a man to put you first and stop taking you for granted is really simple once you understand what pushes a man’s buttons and motivates him to do so.
First of all, you need to keep your options open, or at least have the mindset that you are not going to settle for anything less than the best.
It doesn’t matter if a guy hasn’t committed yet or you are currently in a relationship.
A man will pick up on the sense that you are a step away from walking away unless he also steps up and does a bit more work. Now, this isn’t meant to be used as an ultimatum or dangled in front of him and teasing him.
This is not a tool to be used to bully a guy into doing what you want. You’re not standing there saying, “If you don’t do this and start putting me first then I’m out the door!”
It’s the simple idea of knowing what you deserve and want in a relationship and if he isn’t willing to provide that then you can always find someone better. This may sound harsh but it actually kickstarts a man’s need to make a move.
If he feels like he might lose you and he wants to keep you in his life, you can be certain that he is going to get his butt in gear and lock you down, giving you what you need and making you a priority in his life.
You also want to avoid this one devastating mistake which will continue to allow your man to take advantage of the situation and place you lower on his list of priorities.
When you put a man first and bend over backwards to please him, all it does is teach him that he can get away with poor behavior.
If you’re willing to jump through hoops to cook for him, be really great in bed, and keep him from straying, there’s really no motivation for him to work that hard or put you first.
When he knows that he is going to get those things anyways, he doesn’t see the need in putting that same effort into pleasing you back.
As much as men love these things that you do for them, they’re not what really motivates him to make you a priority. They don’t reach his core and give him what he really desires and keeps him coming back for more.
The most powerful thing you can do to inspire a man and lock him in is to support him and tap into his need for approval.
Keep in mind that this doesn’t mean you are fawning over him and praising him for every little thing he does. What I mean by this is you want to become his muse and his inspiration in life.
You see, men actually have some deep-seated fears that they are not good enough in life, that they are not achieving enough, and that they aren’t acting like the men they strive to be.
This may sound silly to you but it’s a universal struggle that all men face. They secretly desire having that support system from a woman who will push them to succeed even in the face of the toughest obstacles.
When you can energize a man and make him feel alive and ready to face whatever challenges lie ahead, that is when he starts to see you as the most important woman in his life. He begins to appreciate you and treasure you.
When you can inspire a man to such great heights, he will do everything in his power to keep you by his side and make sure that you are taken care of.
A lot of women pull back at this suggestion and start complaining without seeing the deeper benefits to it.
You may already feel like you are putting in all the effort into the relationship, so why should you have to do any more? When is it your turn to be treated well and prioritized?
The real answer is that you have an amount of energy that you are already putting into the relationship. However, you are placing it on the wrong things and focusing on parts of the relationship that are not so significant.
You may be making yourself too available to him, putting on a happy face all the time, cooking for him, and going to the ends of the earth to please him. But none of these things are really reaching your man and making him see your value.
When you start getting to a man’s core and fulfilling his deepest needs you actually aren’t doing any extra work. You’re simply taking that energy that you are already expending and redirecting it to a place that is going to get you incredible results.
A man wants to hold onto the woman who really gets him and can give him what he needs past the superficial. Understanding his fears and desires allows you to crack open his shell and get him to see what a prize you are.
Bringing out the best in a man makes him feel good and notice that it is you in his life bringing out those feelings in him. You can eliminate his fears about not being good enough or not doing enough in life and push him to succeed.
It’s as simple as having the attitude that you know what you are worth and you will not settle for anything less because you also bring the best to him.
When a man can see this amazing quality that you bring to his life, he will place you at the top of his priorities and never let you go.
With Love,
Nick Bastion
